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Offline raymond-

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I was so skeptical
« on: June 26, 2009, 12:12:56 am »
I've been lurking for about half a year on both forums.  Have had numerous
close calls, but no cigar.  A little over a month ago, I received a response
from a young thing in which the connection had potential.

After months of reading the nightmares, the outrageous declarations of love
after a few EMFs....even the occasional successful encounters, I was always
a bit on guard.

What were her real words?  How Photoshopped were her photos?  Was she
in it for a gree card?  Was she just a troll to help rake in $ via EMFs, etc?

So this young lady has decent English.
She is currently living in UAE in a working arrangement.
I didn't have to beg to get candid photo of her.
She can read my English, but prefers to use EMF translator to reply
She is careful and cautious, preferring to trade details about our preferences
  and desires, and flexibility.
She (!) is the one who broached the subject of my getting a webcam and
  possibly conversing by phone.
She is the one who asked (if things looked hopeful) whether I would
  entertain a idea of visiting her.
In trading talk of movies viewed, she suggests that I watch an Ang Le flick
  that included an extended lovemaking scene which almost had me blushing.

blah blah.....

So recently, I had this idea to save a few bucks.  Why don't I write to her
via email, but she can continue to use EMF translators?  She quickly agrees.
A few weeks goes by and I get a surprising reply from her, by email.

Sure, a few mispellings but very easy to determine her intent.  She should
be proud of her English skills.

I flip to header viewing mode.  I plug in the IP address to see where the
email originates.  Atlanta GA.  crap.   hmmm, oh...duh.  I work my way
down the list to backtrace.  China was the next IP hit.   I continue down.
Last on the list was one more IP address.  Ran that through the engine.
Sunvabeach.....UAE, just like she said.

We'll see how this goes.  I've become such a cynic over the past half year
that I was about to close shop at CL and try to hit on the Chinese gal who
is the manager of my neighborhood bank.  :)

Wish me luck, boys.  It's been only two short months with this lady.  She
has been upfront in telling me that she is writing to two other guys.  But
the last photo she sent me (all candid, day to day shots now) has my
photo on her desktop.  (yeah, I wasn't born yesterday... but still).

The big ticket item is that she can understand and read English decently.
I speak one dialect and understand another, but not the one she speaks.
But hey, still not too shabby a start, eh?

I'll continue to check out your collective experiences knowing, of course,
that each young lady is an individual and not subject to broad swipes of
a brush, eg.  "do Chinese wimmin like hair arms?"...."will my gal love
me for who I am, or just my money?"    :-D

Just thought I drop in from the shadows to share.      

all the best, fellas.
« Last Edit: June 26, 2009, 12:15:39 am by raymond- »
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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2009, 12:29:46 am »
Raymond , nice to share this with us . Don't be a stranger . Everybody has questions and doubt's , so we will listen and help wherever we can . No trickery here in this Brotherhood . So good luck to you and your Lady ,  wish it will take you where you want to be .

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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2009, 12:48:27 am »
Raymond, first things first, Welcome to the brotherhood ( something our mods should have done :icon_razz: ) now on to something else, this sounds good, good luck and best wishes, also please keep us informed and post any questions or info you may have.
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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2009, 01:52:23 am »
Welcome Raymond and congratulations.  Isn't it nice when things seem to work out right?  It's almost surprising sometimes.  I hope it all works out for you, she sounds like a real catch - smart and honest.  

Oh, and pics or it didn't happen.  Hehe.  Just kidding.  Just kidding.  :P
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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #4 on: June 26, 2009, 04:41:08 am »
Quote from: 'Vince G' pid='6579' dateline='1245990391'

I'd be cynical too. A lady living in UAE using chnlove? Somethings not right. Her agency is suppose to be able to contact her upon a EMF. They wouldn't be calling UAE? China does do much business with the middle east, but this is a different situation. In a way it's funny. Your being so careful and the one you fall for isn't in China?


Vince, I remember early on that one girl from the Chnlove site had in her profile that she was living in the USA. I never did send her a letter, but I was tempted. I think I thought, that maybe too much competition. Her profile listed her as having good English. I also wondered why, if she was living in the States, was she using a Chinese based matchmaking service. Maybe the agency would contact her through email. Sorry but I can not remember her profile name or number.
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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #5 on: June 26, 2009, 03:33:12 pm »
I guess that she is a guest worker in UAE.. I saw something about this on TV a couple of months ago. I understood that the was making more money that they possible doesn't would be able to do in China. UAE have a lot of guest worker from different countries, mostly from India and Pakistan..
Better to be married to a wife from Changsha then have 7000 women in Chnlove

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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #6 on: June 26, 2009, 06:40:59 pm »
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I guess that she is a guest worker in UAE.. I saw something about this on TV a couple of months ago. I understood that the was making more money that they possible doesn't would be able to do in China. UAE have a lot of guest worker from different countries, mostly from India and Pakistan..


so right, Peter.  UAE and Saudi Arabia are replete with job opportunities
for folks willing to live away from their families, especially folks who
may have difficulty getting jobs locally...hit hard by the economy.  you
see a healthy representation of workers from Nepal, China, SE Asia etc.

I've been helping a sherpa I met in Nepal who relocated to Saudi Arabia.
Maoists have rendered the working conditions totally unbearable.  
Rather than risk losing his hands during a strike, he took a laundry job
in Riyadh.  I've been helping to support his family who is still in Pokhara.

i wondered how seeing all that wealth might affect the young lady I've
been writing to.  she responded that she may go out with friends to see
the sights but, for the most part, ".....I'm a simple girl...."    all their
profiles say this so it must be true, eh?   that is, until the engagement
ring is just around the corner, lucky money, etc.  heh heh

thanks for the warm welcome....especially Neil, who wanted me to
post my picture.    




jest kidding.  :icon_biggrin:
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RE: I was so skeptical
« Reply #7 on: June 26, 2009, 08:53:11 pm »
That's great to hear Raymond. Best wishes for you and her. Keep us up to date for your progress.
Alright earthlings, what form do you want me to take?....How about a taco, ....that craps icecream?  My trip to china